While confession can be good for the soul… it is often one of the most difficult things to do. None of us likes to expose the fact that we are the cause for a break in the separation of any type of relationship. Maintaining an appearance that ‘all is well’ can become a full time job for us. Most people haven’t committed a murder, or held up a bank… so it is easy to find ways to ‘smooth it over’. How much energy does that take?
In truth, we are all guilty of breaking relationships from time to time. Fortunately, Jesus is pretty realistic when it comes to his understanding of our broken relationships. He experienced them daily. He carried them to the cross. Fortunately, his message to us is that broken relationships are not the end of the road in our experience as human beings.
Broken relationships can be confessed.
Broken relationships can be forgiven.
Broken relationships can be restored, and the people involved can be set free.
At least a third of his teachings involved forgiveness at some level. His life was a model for living a life of forgiveness. Again and again, he taught to bless those who persecute you… to forgive, even when it is not deserved. When he taught us to pray, he said, ‘Keep us forgiven… while we forgive others.’
To turn our hearts in such a way that allows us to do our part in the restoring of a broken relationship, we need to be able to open the bad in us, as well as the good. We need to refuse attempting to hide behind a ‘moral’ lifestyle as a way to save face with others. We need to stop pretending to be anyone other than who… we… are…
Tell it like it is… not just about the person who is in a broken relationship with you… but also about yourself. Let go of image management. Let go of manipulation. Let go of being obsessed with yourself.
Jesus laid down the power over his own life.
Jesus took on the broken relationships of the whole world, so that we would not miss out on the ability to see past our shame, and get to a place where we could be who we are… no more… no less.
Confess your shame.
Forgive and be forgiven.
And move on…