Fear isn’t always a negative thing. Sometimes its that instinct that kicks in when you turn the wrong way down a one way street, and you see those headlights coming straight for you. There is a signal inside of you that says… “Hey, look out!”
Fear can become a problem though when you start feeling negative vibes about things that aren’t real, or when something is out of proportion to reality. You can become consumed with protecting yourself at all time… and at all costs. A perceived threat that brings into question your safety and security can overtake you to the point of paralysis. That’s not good.
Often times, we feel a sense of anxiety that causes us to lose sleep, worry, and carry an unrelenting sense of dread. When examined, we aren’t always able to pinpoint what is actually causing this fear.
So, we need to ask the question: Where the heck is this coming from?
Truth is, it could be any number of factors:
- It could be something as simple as the nightly news… an external situation… or a hurried life.
- It could be something that is happening to you physically… a sickness… or lack of sleep.
- It could be something from your upbringing… a parent who always worried… or lack of consistency.
- It could be something traumatizing… an event from your past… or an experience of failure.
Some of us have phobias: fear of specific things. Spiders are a good example of this. How many time have you been tinkering around the house, when suddenly a scream came from a different room? You rush to the rescue to find someone standing on top of the toilet pointing frantically to the small arachnid in the corner.
Some of us have an acute sensitivity to panic. The feeling of being out of control… or closed in on. Heartbeat racing… breathing at a loss… and dizziness. That sense that the floor is going to drop out, and the lack of faith that anything will catch them from the free fall.
All of us at one time or another have experienced rejection in relationships… What follows for some is the devastating sense that they will never have the knowledge of true intimacy… true knowing and being known… no sense of belonging to another. This path toward feelings of abandonment to death is a fear that is very real if you are in the middle of it.
It’s important to pause in these moments of fear and ask a few questions:
- What is it that is making you afraid or anxious?
- How far back can you see this particular fear reaching into your life?
- Are there specific situations/objects/ or persons that take you to this place?
- Are there just certain times when this feeling overtakes you?
- What tends to make it ‘go away’?
- How do you cope with it all when you are in the thick of it?
- Is your health a factor in all of this?
- What do you think your life would be like if you could break free from the grip of fear and anxiety?
It is important to got on top of the questions listed above with knowledge and with truth. I’m not saying that it is all ‘in your head’… but quite often, the clarity that knowledge and truth can bring can be the stepping stone to finding your way out of the this internal black hole. It’s possible that you may adhere to a belief system about something in specific that is irrational, and drives you deeper into the darkness. Often times, lies and deceptions are the root of many of our fears, and it is necessary to take a shovel to them and dig them out… call them what they are.
Anxiety can spread among those who are close to you. If you look back just a bit into watching someone else deal with fear and anxiety, and you should be able to recall the ‘feeling in the room’ that was driven by someone overtaken with fear. This is why horror movies are even scarier in the mass hysteria of a movie theater than in the comfort of your own living room.
Take the time to sort through your fears… and with a little patient, you can have the peace of mind to see things as they truly are, and not just how they are perceived.
By changing your patterns of thought about a certain issue that causes you anxiety, you should be able to see the triggers that plunge you into the darkness of dread. By moving forward, in the company of those who care for you, there will eventually be a light at the end of the tunnel where breathing, and opening your eyes to the wonderful world around you will become the reality you long for when all hope seems lost.